Warning: If you’re sensitive, fragile, or need to constantly have your ego fed by having people tell you how awesome and special you are, this post is probably not for you, because it’s about to get real.
If however, you are someone who may be stuck, someone who can take criticism, and can objectively look at themselves and their efforts, then keep reading.
I am not your mom.
I am not here to coddle you and tell you that “you’re great!” and “keep doing what you’re doing!”
I’m here to tell you the truth…to give you a wake up call…to light a fire under your ass.
I’m here to tell you it’s your fault.
Yeah, told you it was gonna get real.
As human beings, it’s only natural to blame other people or events for our own lack of success. We like to believe that certain things are out of our control and if it wasn’t for this person or that thing, we would have everything we want.
But it’s this exact mindset that is holding your back.
There is only one thing responsible for your success…you!
We make excuses because its easier than acknowledging that we ourselves are what’s holding us back.
“I don’t have enough time to make it to the gym.”
“Counting macros is too hard.”
“The boss at work likes Bob better and that’s why he got the promotion instead of me.”
These are not truths. These are excuses.
The truth is that anything is accomplishable if you make it a priority.
No one has more than 24 hours in the day, but the people that do make it to the gym regularly do so because they make it a priority. They find a way to fit it in, be it watching less TV, eating lunch at their desk, or doing shorter intense workouts.
The people who count their macros do so because they make nutrition a priority. Counting macros or calories is a skill, and like any skill it requires a time investment up front. But also like any skill, the more you do it the easier it becomes and the less you have to think about it.
The people who get ahead at their jobs do so because they make it a priority. That could mean staying a little later instead of leaving at five o’clock every day, or volunteering to take on extra projects. That may mean more work for you, but you can’t expect to better yourself or your position without putting in more work than you currently are.
Or maybe these things aren’t a priority to you…that’s fine. Your priorities may be very different from everyone else’s.
But you can’t expect to accomplish something if you don’t make it a priority in your life. It just doesn’t work like that.
The mind is an amazing thing. It controls everything we do. It controls who we love, what we like, what we dislike, the decisions we make…
It also controls what we believe, including what we believe we can accomplish. If we don’t believe we can do something, we will never do it.
But instead of bull-rushing our brains or saying to ourselves “I will force myself to do this”, we need to look deep within ourselves and identify what is holding us back. Only then can we truly move forward towards accomplishing our goal.
Maybe it’s a fear of failure; of trying and not succeeding.
Fear is a powerful motivator. But you need to ask yourself, “Is the fear of trying and failing greater than the fear of what will happen if I don’t try and stay where I am?”
Failure should not be thought of as something to avoid, but rather something to embrace. Every time we fail, it’s a chance to come back and make ourselves better than before.
“Why do we fall? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up.” – Thomas Wayne, Batman Begins
Or maybe it’s not fear that’s holding you back. Maybe it’s something else entirely. Whatever it may be, it’s important to identify it and realize that it’s completely within your control to change.
The problem with blaming others is that it doesn’t help you. It may make you feel better for a little bit, but it doesn’t move you closer to accomplishing your goal.
It’s time to realize that you and you alone are in control of your life.
It’s time to see the excuses for what they are…excuses.
It’s time to take responsibility for your actions. You may not have dealt yourself the hand you have, but that doesn’t mean you can blame others for how you play it.
Let the butt hurt flow…